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Healing trauma

Trauma Counselling Sydney

When trauma takes hold it is a form of mental and bodily arrest. Bearing the emotions trauma comes with alone, becomes unendurable. The roots of trauma are often well hidden from cognition. Neuroscience is pointing to increasing our body awareness to support recovery.

when an experience rocks our boat

When we are traumatised we stop thinking. Experiences risk to get trapped inside us, outside of our consciousness. They become hard to access so we can let them go. Instead they keep making themselves reminded, through our behaviours and by disturbing our everyday relationships.

what does trauma feel like?

The complex impact of trauma presents in different ways. A developmental trauma from childhood can present as an overarching numbness. Or it can feel as if we are imprisoned by fear, as if under life threat. Less complex traumas may generate feelings that are easier to describe. You are easily irritable and avoiding others. Or you have problems falling asleep and staying asleep.

developmental trauma counselling
“Trauma exposes us to the unpredictability of our existence”

Coping with trauma

Painful emotions that do not find empathic attunement become traumatic. In coping with a trauma, the responsiveness following an event is therefore also important. Trauma has two parts. The source of painful feelings is the first part, the absence of emotional understanding becomes the second part. Bearing the emotions alone, becomes unendurable (1).

The context of your life at the time of a traumatic event also matters. If a terrifying experience happens to you as a child, perhaps even before language, the experience can get locked in far inside. If a traumatic event happens to you as an adult, and you have a reliable support network available, you will have better chances of escaping serious impact.


An animal during life threat runs!

Trauma impacts on the nervous system and the brain. The nervous system makes decisions without our “permission”. During a trauma, the lower brain shuts down, bypassing the prefrontal cortex and any sense of choice for us. (2)

“If it hurts, hide it” – Michael Martin Murphy

When we freeze during a stressful event, we are unable to discharge the energy that is created. Unlike other animals under life threat, humans are conditioned to trap that energy and fear inside (3). Symptoms of a complex, developmental trauma can start to develop decades after the event. A trauma response to a past experience can be triggered by another, seemingly unrelated event.

Emotions speak from the body


Emotions speak from the body. The body holds the emotional injury. We know that the limbic system, between the brain stem and cerebral cortex responds to traumatic stress. The limbic system is linked to the autonomic nervous system – the ANS. The ANS helps tell us when our bodies need to stress – and when we can relax. Several studies have shown that sufferers of PTSD have lower cortisol levels, causing a continued stress or freeze reaction (4).

“We are routinely pressured into adjusting too quickly in the aftermath of an overwhelming situation”

Another way of describing our thoughts, feelings and memories is to see them as patterns inside us. These patterns are embodied and stored in circuits and synapses in our brain. They are also stored throughout our body and nervous system. We form these patterns in relations with others. Through sharing thoughts, feelings and memories with others, we shape how we are able to regulate the flow (5).


Recovery from trauma requires a safe place


When you are traumatised the world is an unsafe place. Depression is common. When searching for professional support, listen to your intuition. Work with someone that can tolerate hearing your story and support you with plenty of space for the painful emotions to come out.

Dr Robert Stolorow speaks of how we can not recover the innocence of life before the event. Instead of recovery – think of working with trauma as an integration towards a life where you can pass more freely between your every day world and the shattered world of trauma. (6)

When you feel genuine warmth and trust with someone, the journey of resolving trauma can start. Treated gently and sensitively, trauma begins to dissolve without you needing to relive the actual experience or memories of it.

“Bearing the emotions alone, becomes unendurable” - Dr Robert Stolorow

Trauma counselling and somatic psychotherapy


Somatic psychotherapy is a place where it is about you. It is nothing about meeting the needs of anyone around you. Through the body and mind we work together (7). Gradually you can begin to:
• discharge the built up energy in your body and be less reactive
• sit with the sensations and let them dissolve, whilst staying safe in the now
• integrate the story to become a memory of the past (8)

Read more about somatic psychotherapy and about me here.


1, 6) www.soundcloud.com/betweenuspodcast/episode-10-finitude-with-dr-robert-stolorow

2,7) http://www.nicabm.com/treatingtrauma2014/pgu1-info/

3) Levine, Peter A. Waking the Tiger. North Atlantic Books. 1997

4) Rotschild, B. The Body Remembers. The psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma treatment. W.W. Norton & Company. 2000
5) Siegel, D. Mindsight – the new science of personal transformation. Bantam Books 2010.

8) Van Der Kolk, B. The Body Keeps the Score – Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma. Penguin books, 2014.

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